This will appeal to fans of Karl Pillemer's 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans and Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's work. Marie de Hennezel shows us that the true Fountain of Youth lies within, but its waters do not make us younger but open our eyes to the possibilities for growth that lie ahead as we get older. This we can all do. It is a useful guide to seeing advancing years as a time of growth and valuable experiences. In the end what I get are summarized in below key points: 1. She recalls her encounters as a clinical psychologist with extraordinary people who 'grow old gracefully' — and through her experience shows us how to make the most of this time in our lives, to avoid depression and to stay happy. I am convinced that the twenty years that separate us from old age are a chance we have been given to learn how to age, to ' work at growing old', to prepare ourselves psychologically and spiritually for this final stage in our lives.
De Hennezel tackles these fears by taking a highly-intelligent look at all aspects of ageing. In the end I came away feeling uplifted and informed and really glad I had read it. Attitudes to the elderly are largely negative in a culture preoccupied by youth, maintainance of youth and health, and the pervasive beliefs that becoming old brings nothing but misery, almost a loss of humanity. She's aware that lifestyle - reducing calories, avoiding alcohol and tobacco etc - is important - while acknowledging the inevitable slowing down of the body and propensity to disease, but she seems less focused upon those many of us who have not the beneficial bulwarks of healthy lifestyle, cultural capital and adequate finances to negotiate the final stages of life satisfactorily. She probes her personal fears courageously and then through anecdotes and statistics crafts a portrait of aging the reader can aspire to.
The aim is to free ourselves from the shackles of a painful past, and forgive ourselves for our failures. Until then, we shall continue to die in fear. She sets the record straight about the realities of aging and helps readers learn to embrace the work of growing old…. This is a wonderful book with a powerful message that applies to everyone no matter how old they are. This is a wonderful book with a powerful message that applies to everyone no matter how old they are. The majority who felt full of fear and under threat from several directions, including insufficient income, health, housing and isolation. In hindsight, this characterizes the general premise of this book: as time passes life throws you curved ball after curved ball, after curved ball, etc etc ; respond with a sour attitude and misfortune follows misfortune, smile and the world smiles with you.
Click on the cover image above to read some pages of this book! The problems I have with her book are largely to do with the examples she chooses to offer of individuals who have gone on to live a happy and fulfilling old age. Questions about old age 7. Drawing on literature, film, academia, and numerous interviews with seniors, de Hennezel combines anecdotes with psychological theory, philosophy, and research to present a refreshing take on everything that becoming older can offer. Drawing on literature, film, academia, and numerous interviews with seniors, de Hennezel combines anecdotes with psychological theory, philosophy, and research to present a refreshing take on everything that becoming older can offer. It deals with the difficult question of how to get old with dignity and grace in a society which places so little value on it's elderly and their care. Both shortcomings took away the burnish of some of her book. I would have liked to have seen the book organized differently--as it was it seemed to be 100 pages of a string of anecdotes with some important information weaved in between.
She sets the record straight about the realities of aging and helps readers learn to embrace the work of growing old. The fact that they have been in contact with a range of very different people during their childhoods certainly played a part in this openness. With humor, lessons learned by the author, wise words from elders and ideas presented by laymen, poets and philosophers, this gem of a book advocates what the title implies; With an open and loving heart, one may grow physically old, but the heart, that center of spirit, creativity and vitality can remain forever young…. She is highly cultured, and her network of friends and acquaintances numbers high achieving philosophers and artists. Do not oppose reality, but do not prevent life from fulfilling its potential to bring forth new things, right up to your very last breath.
She believes that wherever we grow old and whatever our circumstances, if we can maintain energy in our hearts and believe in the power of joy and human warmth, this can transform us and the way we look at the world. The therapist who helped the late French President Jacques Mitterand through the final stages of his cancer, she's been leading the crusade to help people grow old gracefully, with dignity, and with joy. It's full of wisdom, though I also think much of what she says might apply to any age. Aging brings us face to face with our sacred and our mundane, our imperfections and our failures. She has written nine books about the end of life, including 'Intimate Death', and is the author of two ministerial reports on caring for those with terminal illnesses.
There is much in this book to recommend it--good reminders about the importance of approaching aging in a different, more positive way. I found it, as I said, inspiring as, incidentally I did her book about her work in a hospice called Intimate Death which has now been reprinted. For the writer, she give the indication that perhaps she would choose to lay in her bed after her decay and wait for the death; without too much effort of reviving. Grow older, but do not be old; that is to say, do not be bitter and despairing. One of the great values of this book is that it is a treatise on how to grow old and not become old. Author Marie de Hennezel argues that looking positively at ageing helps us make the most of a very previous time' Yours.
It is a useful guide to seeing advancing years as a time of growth and valuable experiences. Brand new: A new, unread, unused book in perfect condition with no missing or damaged pages. The words are somewhat too poetic that I struggled to grasp the meaning. It demands that we not fall prey to what we no longer have or what we can no longer do. This new paradigm requires each and every one of us to show up in our own aging. For everybody, the financial implications are enormous. The last joys of old age 14.