A couple of the therapists Bergner talks about this guy seeing seem lik So Bergner writes about four people with different paraphilias. But the book can't be accused of sensationalism. How can we understand the relationship between the transcendent and the physical, between the wish for love and the anarchy of the erotic? A child molester struggles with his forbidden desires. Nor do I care to, nor do I believe was the author trying to do. He gets as completely turned on by bare feet as another man might be if women went to the grocery store topless. It is sometimes unclear what one paragraph has to do with the next, and occasionally even the individual sentence is clumsy enough to cause confusion.
Anyone who is interested in sexuality would enjoy this book although it focuses on paraphilia and not transgender issues which have made up the majority of my sexuality readings in the past. I often found myself questioning the logic or severity of the prescribed treatment and realized that skepticism came from my own, similar experience to the patient, which the therapist lacked. This is an issue that is most comfortable to view in black and white terms but this study makes that perspective more difficult to justify. It is as if he does not wish to impinge on the stories he tells by taking them anywhere other than where the subjects wish for them to go—an admirable aim, perhaps, but one for which the book suffers. Otherwise venture into this oft-unvisited subject.
This is a brave stance for someone these days in regards to people accused of sex crimes of minors. But I began to see as these other men were seeing. Readers will be most disturbed by Roy, a likable computer technician who is also a child molester. He keeps to four characters and then intersperses the thoughts, personal theories and clinical studies of researchers and therapists who work with these topics and people daily. This book is truly an education in what we normally consider perversion, from the merely weird to the criminally insane.
Most of the paraphiliacs profiled in the text are deeply unhappy particularly those--obviously--whose paraphilias are straight up illegal. The writing style in general is hit-and-miss. Known in psychiatric parlance as paraphilias and often, but disputably, classified as sexual disorders, the conditions discussed in length in The Other Side of Desire include atypical patterns of behavior that when exposed are sure to cause raised eyebrows and turned stomachs, body parts that, while no doubt responsive, are not what Bergner sets out to elicit reactions from. What struck me most about the book is how little we know about sexuality. Most of the paraphiliacs profiled in the text are deeply unhappy particularly those--obviously--whose paraphilias are straight up illegal.
I also appreciated his full disclosure of the ethics involved in writing about that situation. It's a reminder that the world is full of fantastic people, all who should be given equal opportunity to fin Bergner is an intelligent and careful writer. I'm not sure what I expected to get out of it, possibly a scientific-ish perspective to balance all the anecdotal stores I've been collecting this past year or two-? While he was carving the stone, a rich patron came by and wanted the piece for his own house. While reading The Other Side of Desire I came across a book on human sexuality and how it differs from that of other livin I read this book after a book on sex addiction Desire by Susan Cheever and found it very interesting and challenging— both in light of the book on sex addiction and in contrast to it. Well, there's the time she actually obliged a man's request to roast him over a pit like a trussed pig. The paraphilias most commonly identified - pedophilia, exhibitionism and voyeurism - are those most likely to catch the attention of police and judges. Lack of commentary on my own stupidity over all things sexual is not to meant to elude to any sort of false pretense of being the exception to the rule, rather provide room to get on with the actual review of the book at hand.
The importance of his desire is that he trusts the horse to respond in a way that, apparently, his girlfriend or any girl or boy doesn't. While I'm not sure I've found the answers to the questions he's asked or the answers he wants me to find or how all the four stories link together more completely, I think he's delicately crafted ways for the reader to find her own answers, her own meaning--and I value that. My is about love, sexuality, gender and ethics. In short, it feels like this book was written 50 years ago. He interviews probation officers, psychiatrists, doctors, along with child molesters, and various people who practice deviant sexual behaviors.
He has never allowed himself to be basted with honey, naked except for a leather jockstrap, and roasted on a spit over glowing coals. The foot fetishist is the most interesting and the one that I felt the most sympathy for because he is genuinely tormented by his proclivity. It is considered neither a psychiatric illness nor a preference. Some went further with this hypothesis by claiming that man was essentially a mimic Smith, 1916; F. I was shocked with some of the things I read. Interspersed thorughout the stories are related findings from psychiatrists, psychologists and neuroscientists. On my birthday a friend invited me to go to Ireland with her and observe her and her husband renew their wedding vows 20 years.
So it counts for a lot, I think, that Daniel Bergner agreed to be interviewed by lil ole me. A photographer is attracted to am What if you were wired to have sexual desires that were considered odd, bizarre, maybe even criminal? I guess it's a testament to its readability that I kept going, cos I rarely read non-fic and often don't finish or get very far when i attempt it. As a clinician I found it educational since the science discussed was absent from my training. I was intrigued for personal reasons: It took a long time to make peace with my own kinky sexuality. Maybe if I didn't know this stuff existed it would be a better reading experience, but since I do this just seemed really lacking.
Got it again in Sept and renewed it once but there is still a lot of pressure on this. His prose is delicious and seductive, reflecting much of the content held within his pages. What struck me most about the book is how little we know about sexuality. The author talks to foot fetishist, a dominatrix, a amputee fetishist and a convicted molester about their desires and how their desires affect their lives. The cavern is at once a universe and a womb. Bergner hesitated when asked if working on the book had changed him. I guess Lori Gottlieb has trouble understanding that it might be a good thing for a kinkster to feel sexually unashamed.