Married to Distraction will set couples on a course of understanding, healing, and love. As such rancor rises, many of us feel an unmet need for some kind words, but we hesitate to ask for them or even to offer them, lest we seem feeble, passe, or vulnerable. You ought to think of him or her as someone you have fun with, someone you look forward to seeing, someone who for an undefinablereason makes life feel special. One of the most jarring facts about modern life is how angry, contentious, and unfriendly it can be. You may believe your marriage is basically good, but it could use a tweak. These days it is best to create your own safe haven, your own network of positive connections, your local protection against the storm of data and disappointments we call the news.
Overall, the book's greatest strength is it's focus on communication. Without attention, there is no intimacy. Are you more distant from your spouse than you'd like to be? On the other hand, too much attention can snuff it out. The good news is that there are straightforward and effective ways to maneuver your marriage out of the destructive roadblocks created by the avalanche of busy living. Hallowell's books have sold more than 2 million copies on various psychological topics including how to: raise children into happy adults, manage worry, develop focus, forgiveness, connecting on a deeper level and how to inspire the best from employees. Thanks to technology, we live in an age of instant gotcha! Mutual empathy creates a connection. Complete with scripts, tips, specific communication and interaction techniques, and a detailed 30-day reconnection plan, as well as inspiring real-life stories from relationships that were brought back from the brink, Married to Distraction will set couples on a course of understanding, healing, and love.
There's so much to worry about. Such a mundane obstacle—distraction—ruins millions of potentially intimate relationships in our modern age. The Hallowells are the parents of three teenage children. You want to be part of a connected team, not two people working in parallel. But today, fun often gives way to fear. By play we mean any activity in which your imagination comes alive.
Without sustained attention, love cannot grow. In today's world, distractions interrupt attention all the time. Marital bliss may seem like a preposterous pipe dream, not an attainable goal. When you see an argument or fight getting started, try to catch yourself and say to yourself, Let me try to do this a little differently this time. I understand the need to give examples but an hour of listening to couples argue makes me feel angry and isn't very helpful at all. You won't have to learn a foreign language or join a new religion. If you follow the suggestions we offer in these pages, it will be impossible for you not to develop a closer and more enjoyable relationship.
· Develop and nurture empathy—the essential building block to healthy communication. We deal with overload by tuning it out, but the repercussions on couples and commitment are serious. Hallowell now identifies the underlying reasons why people lose their ability to focus at work. If you're still taking it seriously and working at it, your efforts will pay off as long as you have a plan that makessense. You feel safe enough to let go and to play. Hallowell provides a set of practical and reliable techniques to show how to sustain a productive mental state.
Married to Distraction How to Restore Intimacy and Strengthen Your Partnership in an Age of Interruption Restoring Intimacy and Strengthening Your Marriage in an Age of Interruption By Edward M. Excerpted from Married to Distraction by Edward M. If there is any in there I haven't seen it yet because the first few hour or more seems to be one angry example of an argument after another. And doctors are realizing that millions of adults suffer from this condition, though the vast majority of them remain undiagnosed and untreated. Earn the money, take care of the kids, keep up the house, do the holidays and birthdays and celebrations,bake the cookies, do the school and homework thing, keep up with the relatives, you know the drill. When all goes right, a natural sequence of five steps leads to such happiness in love. But today, fun often gives way to fear.
Modern marriage is busy, distracted, and overloaded to extremes, with ever-increasing lists of things to do, superficial electronic connections, and interrupted moments. You may be in great distress, or just a little worried. I found this book very helpful in giving students ideas for approaching their relationships and maintain relationships while in this hectic program. The Hallowells are the parents of three teenage children. The problem is that once you have gotten your nifty new product, the married to distraction hallowell edward m hallowell sue orlov melissa gets a brief glance, maybe a once over, but it often tends to get discarded or lost with the original packaging. Resistingpicking up the phone to make the call.
All of us who have been part of a couple for more than a few years will recognize ourselves in this reassuring book. As you read this, you may be wondering if any of the hopes we've mentioned are realistically possible given the frenzy and anxiety of modern life and all the stuff you have todo just to stay afloat. Without attention, there is no intimacy. We want to connect with you, no matter where you are emotionally. The good news is that there are straightforward and effective ways to maneuver your marriage out of the destructive roadblocks created by the avalanche of busy living.
While few dispute that fact, not too many people are doing much about it. But you're a little frustrated--or maybe a lot frustrated--with your difficulty in turning your relationship into what it could be or keeping it where you want it to be. When I would read just a few sentences to my husband here and there throughout the book, my husband swore there was a tiny airplane constantly hovering over me to give the author information about me!! It can save a marriage or simply help people in happy marriages get closer and feel more fulfilled. · Develop and nurture empathy—the essential building block to healthy communication. The old cliché of the terrible in-laws is a destructive one.
Human intimacy is so complex, so coiled and convoluted, that it's hard not to hit a snag. You want to enjoy the feast together. All of us who have been part of a couple for more than a few years will recognize ourselves in this reassuring book. Overall, the book's greatest strength is it's focus on communication. Upon finishing, I felt like the book lacked nuance and depth. Anyone who tells you it's easy to stay together over the long haul has never done it. I'll try to return this.