Follow me on Twitter and visit my blog, The Beastly Ex-Boyfriend. I applaud the guys who make hookups happen simply from exchanging glances with the men they pass on the sidewalk. Photo above from the Black Party, 2015. In our minds, we lift his shirt the rest of the way and tug on the brim of his trousers with our teeth. For all others, enjoy the slideshow. Many people, myself included, like to people-watch at coffee shops.
Circuit parties, which are essentially massive cruising fests, are beautiful, expensive things that cater to gay men with enough disposable income to afford tickets and travel and clothes, and drugs, and hotel rooms, and harnesses, and all the many other costs that inevitably factor in. Backrooms are relics of an earlier time, when managers and owners generously created a space where their patrons could do what they needed to do with each other and looked the other way — or perhaps joined in. Share date night with the guys and see these sexy nude men hook up with new lovers through exciting and romantic oral and anal sex adventures. Some gyms will have a stronger cruising vibe than others, depending on the neighborhood. But what he did not know is that his shop is total cruising zone.
The eyes are on you. The views in this slideshow do not reflect those of The Advocate and are based solely on my own experiences. I must here give a word of caution. We have always have been doing this — Grindr simply made cruising easier.
Doing so takes game, body-reading skills, improvisation, and guts. In my lowest moments, I have cruised for sex simply because I needed to be around someone else or forget my problems for a little bit. Parks are harder to cruise today. Gay life has changed since then.
Bend him over in the bathroom stall or, better yet, find some austere and dramatic place you two can tuck away for some privacy. One is closer than you think. The guy was standing at least one foot back from the urinal and I could see every inch of his massive cock. If you give gay men an effortless way to hunt for sex on-the-go, everywhere they go, all the time, they are going to go for it. Others say they have simply redefined it. Black Party The Saint At Large.
Scruff was launched in 2010, the year after Grindr hit the app store. X, and many others all trying to get in on the action. While this risk is totally part of the fun, getting caught can land you in jail. The closet drew many men to bathhouses where they could cruise freely before returning home to their wives.
My impulse is to wag my finger at an industry that caters to the rich — but I also love circuit parties. City parks were once the cruising grounds for gay men. Now all you have to do is work up the courage to talk to him, give him your number, or nod to the exit. The beauty of dancing in a room full of gay men and typically getting high with them is something I can hardly describe.
. The Portuguese director makes short films that blur the lines between documentary and pornography, art and voyeurism — which means his films are great. Guys will be guys, and these gay men are no exception. Cruising comes naturally to these places, since people-watching and cruising are basically the same thing, and what better way to lick the foam off your lips than having someone lick it off for you? Coffee shops are places where you can retreat from the bustle of life, read a book, do some work on the computer, and sip your overpriced lavender mocha. Linger until everyone has left the restroom. If these are not options in your city, plan a trip.
If you make eye contact with him and discover wordlessly and without complete certainty that you are both interested, then voila! Tiresome arguments between guys who hate hookup apps and guys who love them continue to rage across gay media outlets. Police patrolling has amped up, and there are obvious safety risks to cruising parks at night. I almost never go to nongay bars, because I give my dollars to spaces that exist for me. Regardless of your views on sex, cruising defined our world at one point. The whole time I was wondering, Why is he standing so far back from the urinal like that? Unzipped, Attitude, and The Advocate were my first signs of gay life; the first proof I had that others were out there.