Most people think that you cannot enjoy a satisfying relationship until you first get yourself healthy. Gay men still mostly chose to segregate themselves in their own bars, baths, community centers, and gayborhoods, and the straight people seemed to prefer it that way. Dating and getting into relationships are what help make you healthy. Researchers disagree on whether sexual reorientation i. While it is theoretically sound and clinically instructive, the chief value of this book is its humanization of therapy, challenging us all to face our demons and accept the fact of difference. Oftentimes, religion is a significant motivator in an individual's decision to participate in the different types of affectional reorientation therapies.
But I and my colleagues have struggled tremendously to help our clients with this particular profile e. Kort not only meets his goals, he exceeds them. Kort helps gay men develop a healthy, affirming relationship with their gay identity, and in this book he continues the conversation by exploring the topics of love and intimacy. The E-mail message field is required. In an informative and non-judgemental way he covers the wide range of therapeutic scenarios and guides the reader through the subtleties of treating Gays and Lesbians.
Yet despite the sea change of attitudes toward homosexuality, many well-meaning straight therapists are still at a loss as to how to effectively counsel their gay and lesbian clients. Learn the five biggest mistakes gay men make when seeking a relationship. It is essential reading forthe straight therapist who has not explored his or her own prejudices and has little knowledge of the lesbian and gay world. You will also discover how your relationship with your mother and father impacts your success in finding love and how, in fact, you are drawn to familiar love. Of particular importance are the roles professional boundaries play in working with sexual minorities. It is noted that the best preparation for a clinician is prior experience working with lesbians.
Most queer men in mixed-orientation marriages initially expect to have a traditional, monogamous heterosexual marriage. The world has changed in many ways since 2003, and my thoughts and perspectives have evolved since then, too. This book will offer straight therapists the tools they need to counsel gay and lesbian clients effectively. I have spent a lot of time around gay men. It's chilling how fast these clients become activated and leave treatment, or relapse de I'm a psychotherapist at a dual diagnosis residential alcohol and drug treatment center in West Hollywood WeHo. Same-sex marriage is recognized in certain states, gay-straight alliances are springing up in high schools across the country, and major religious denominations are embracing gay clergy.
I think many of my gay male and lesbian colleagues, and clients could benefit from reading this material. Finally, in Study 4, we replicated the findings with a set of traits that were generated with regard to relationships in general rather than monogamous relationships, specifically and with a broader set of arbitrary traits. He includes many detailed case studies that help provide a deeper understanding of each topic and how it may present in the clinical setting. I hope this book gets the visibility it deserves. In 2003, there were no signs that gay marriage was ever going to be legal. Not knowing this information can lead you to walk away from the relationship of your dreams.
I have witnessed colleges doing what seemed to be real damage to some of our gay male clients by inadvertently invalidating them and abandoning them when they protest. Товар с самой низкой ценой, который уже использовали или носили ранее. This book is an answer to my prayers I don't actually pray but you get what I mean. In this article we highlight the need for quality relationship education programs for same-sex couples and review the literature to identify unique needs of same-sex couples that may not be met by existing programs. I would heartily recommend this text to any 'straight clinicians' working with gay or lesbian clients.
In addition, several novel program foci were suggested e. My only criticism is that the title may be off putting to many gay and lesbian readers. Same Sex marriage remains illegal where I live. Same-sex marriage is recognized in certain states, gay-straight alliances are springing up in high schools across the country, and major religious denominations are embracing gay clergy. We typically have a large population of gay male clients. This book will offer straight therapists the tools they need to counsel gay and lesbian clients effectively.
Being a gay friendly therapist is not the same thing as being a gay affirmative therapist. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer individuals are utilizing the services of couple and family therapists and many other mental health professionals at increasing rates. This updated and revised edition is more sex positive than the first edition and includes a new chapter on exploring erotic turn ons and sexual interests. The mixed orientation marriage is explained and an exploration of options is given. It will help you screen yourself for any covert homophobia and it will help you approach your work with gay and lesbian clients in a manner most likely to be successful. It does not explain and eradicate all the problems faced by gays and lesbians.