Not feeling rushed makes a massive difference as well. Varying pressure, sometimes delicate, sometimes firmer. He ordered me to come while I was riding him… I orgasmed 3 times that night! Different people like different things, so your best bet is try things out and ask what feels good. They also tend to go in too fast, with no build up. A lot of people underestimate the clitoris. To make the mysteries of the clit a little less intimidating, we asked a bunch of people with vaginas what they actually want sexual partners to do to their clitoris.
I hate when people think isolating it and sucking on it is a good idea — hate that. Not clitoral per se, but it certainly blew my mind. And I would say just treated my clit and my whole body with reverence in a good, quiet, understated way. Missionary position stimulation is the only way I can orgasm through sex.
. Now, probably 70% because I think I choose partners better and am more confident about making sure I also have a good time but it was probably more like 20% when I was in my early 20s. With current partner, around 40%. Oh, the complex mystery of female sexuality. Too much prodding and poking is a massive turn off.
I can make myself orgasm in seconds. Also, any kind of vibrator meant for the clit used during oral or full-on sex. Do you tend to orgasm through clitoral or vaginal stimulation? No physical touch could counteract feeling like someone was just going through the motions. And in so doing, making feel like a goddess. Any kind of teasing is great, but that was especially brilliant. .
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