I really wanted to read this book for quite awhile. It's something that every young person should read, that every person should read. Just the sheer volume of stories and examples Harding collects in one place is disquieting and extremely convincing in a way that getting it in pieces through the day-to-day grind of Internet reading will never accomplish. As someone who is trying to become more educated about women's rights and feminis This was a great book for me to start out with as my first deeper look into rape culture. Do you see where I am going with this??? As highlighted by the book there are two flaws with this stereotype.
Everyone should read this book no matter their gender identification, sexual orientation, religious, or political beliefs. While I do think things have changed from the past they haven't change enough as so many victims are treated so badly, while the men that rape are still seen as boys will be boys. If nobody's actually committing rape, how are we supposed to address it as a public health and safety issue? I've been a fan of Kate Harding's ever since her days blogging at Shakespeare's Sister now Shakesville. And awareness is the first place to start. First comment under his post: Mate, you were Just a week before I saw this book, I had a shocking moment of self-awareness. Yet Harding shows how anti-abortion activists and politicians - and rapists themselves - use reproductive rights as a cudgel to control women and their bodies.
Take someone else's work, quote — elaborate on it some and call it a day. Oh, right, by giving women endless lists of acceptable behaviors and warnings about personal responsibility, for as long as it takes until those dummies get it together and quit becoming victims. This is unarguably true to anyone with half a functioning brain, which rapists and anyone else who buys into the rape culture quite evidently doesn't have, but more instead of addressing the real and unarguable issue In the same vein, I would have liked her to have talked about educating men not to be criminals rather than zero in on the narrow field of educating them not to be rapists. And while revenge porn and upskirt photos are mentioned in passing, both are forms of sexual assault that are slowly being recognized as the serious violations that they are - making them ripe for discussion. What also outraged me is that this didn't show up in the first page of results on Goodreads. Sometimes, though, this is not what matters to me.
That's the wrong way to go about it, even though I want to scream about it. Harding clearly did her research, but she also has a stake in the story. I was interested to see her take on the clash of modern feminists like herself and other popular female influences that proudly display their bodies in all it's glory and support the idea that a woman shouldn't be labelled for loving her body or the choice of her clothes I am referring to pop culture , versus some other extremely popular feminist influences in modern culture like Anita Sarkeesian that say that by doing that women indulge in male sexual fantasies and are in fact not empowering themselves rather covertly trying to win male approval and by doing so perpetuate rape culture. Assertion of sexual dominance still appeals to the animal side of humanity, as psychology will vouch for, no matter how hard we try to polish out the outer shell with the guise of civilization. I am horrified and angry about how rape or sexual assault claims or cases had been handled and probably some that are still being handled in the same way today in the past. The book is written accessibly and intelligently, without hyperbole, and is a sincere work of scholarship no library or bookshelf should be without. At a snail pace, sure, but they are.
And awareness is the first place to start. However, they consistently follow a pattern whereby, they blame the victim for their Undoubtedly, this is an uncomfortable book to read, but I found it challenging and thought provoking. I figured this was the perfect time to listen to the audiobook, especially after listening to recently. In some ways I was attempting to write a social novel, but a non-polemical one. Harding takes both conservative and those allegedly more liberal media to task and also takes a hard line on mens rights activists let me just say that these aren't the guys banging on drums in the woods , but my review might be as long as the book if I keep touching on every passage I marked.
We get to see how rape culture works on them, all while they continually struggle to see it themselves. In an ideal world where we would no longer live in a society that treated women with appalling levels of double-standard and rape as a violation of someone's purity, rather than their autonomy, sure, we could cede our autonomy if we liked, we could blur the lines, we could distinguish between illegal and bad. The fact is, we live in a society where women are still seen as prizes to be won -- and where we are told to police our own behavior so that men don't have to police theirs. I'd just proved to myself that I wasn't immune to its effects. Allegations still need to be investigated, but sadly in many cases they are never granted this luxury.
Again, it's not the point. Kate Harding started with something easy - what is rape culture? This is the first book since 2008's Yes Means Yes! You do not offer another what may be seen as an opportunity to stalk you. Why should boys treat them well, when their own mothers, their main female role models, wouldn't? I am excited about people compiling all this information and talking about it, as I have never seen this info all together like this. Another issue I personally had is that the author's tone felt a bit preachy and strident at times and thereby at risk of undermining a really strong case. Informative and informal, the book is a smart, impassioned and well-researched agenda for a strictly no-nonsense understanding of rape culture. Most people don't even consider that rape. I learned so much about the world by reading fiction as a young adult, in a roundabout way.
It drives home everything that came before. Have a warning sound in our minds that goes off each time we think 'oh, it's just this type of person doing this type of thing'. As in prior years, the names of our 2015 contributors will be unveiled throughout the month as their entries are published. Is this what you set out to do? In many ways, they individuals are harmed by the system of power that they also uphold. Harding starts with the practice of victim blaming.
The cases described in this book are for the large part extremely well known cases, and in my opinion have been covered in better ways and from more angles by other people. In Asking for It, Kate Harding answers those questions in the same blunt, bullshit-free voice that has made her a powerhouse feminist blogger. Sometimes what matters to me is that somebody cares - somebody tries. It's required reading for anyone who wants to know why there's so much fuss about rape culture these days, as well as for everyone who wants to do something about it. Harding looks at the various myths of rape culture and how powerfully they play in our mindse Painful but important read. And how do we change it? Many titles are too embarrassing to mention, but lots of fantasy and sci-fi paperbacks got dragged out from storage.